1st Day: Intimacy can heal anything

Okie, 1 day has passed. Embarking on my new task/project, I started on the 1st exercise based on the quote: Intimacy can heal anything.
Before any of you guys think otherwise, intimacy in POV language is more of opening up and approaching ur partner with open arms. Moving forward and toward your partner will lead you to a "joining" which will result in a synergy and postive engery on the relationship.

Many a times, we will feel tired, bored, deadness, fear and sense of unworthiness in a relationship (can be any forms of relationships, friendship, kinship etc), so Chuck suggested that when we truly move toward our partner the answer to these problems will come. There is a new level of connectedness, which will heal anything. Note: Moving toward our partner does not mean giving in to the him/her nor compromising on our own values. It is simply moving toward them in love.

Exercise: I must imagine what are the problems I faced with my idenitified partner and with that clearly in mind, I will then have to imagine moving toward them. Passing all problems and moving closer to them... and at the point of joining, I would have moved past the problems and everything that is hindering the relationship from moving forward.

This can be applied to any forms of relationship, in fact I tried it on a friend whom I believe I told u all in the earlier post that I seemed to have lost... I called out to her today and gave her a hug, at the brief moment, I "poured" my love for her and tell her that I love her and she's a very dear friend of mine. I dunno if she felt anything, but I sure do feel happier after the hug. I felt that I've tried and I know that she may have felt something. I dun expect immediate reaction frm her, but I believe that by "loving" her in my own manner, she will feel it one day. And by "loving" someone unconditionally, I would be able to live a happier life as I do not have expectations and thus no disappointments.

Other than her, of coz I tried on my own partner, i.e. my darling. I felt that I need to get past the problems of trust and lack of self-worth (on my end) and today of all days, I was "thrown" many tests, with the pressure from work, I got irritated by him and I start having nana thoughts. But I steered myself back and told myself that I need to get past these problems and move toward him truly and sure enough, the feeling of distrust dissipiated. I know this may be a baby step I've made today, but I'm glad I made this baby step, coz I am 1 baby step closer to him. =)

Okie, tomorrow's exercise will be: "Any behaviour that is not love is a call for love"

(have a strong feeling this is to do with family....)

Okie peeps, gonna slp soon as I have a long day tomorrow. Nitey everyone and love u guys. *muacks*

Sudden Thought.....

Had a sudden thought.. was just flipping thru my little trusted book from Chuck Spezzano, "If it hurts, It isnt Love" and this brilliant yet "require alot of commitment" idea popped into my head.. have any of you watche Julie and Julia? Remember how Julie Powell decides to undertake 524 of Julia Child's recipes within a year?

Okie my idea is undertaking the book, which consists of 366 days (inclusive of 1 extra day for leap year!) and go thru one by one.. commiting myself to healing myself. This book is very special to me as it was my 1st-month anniversary pressie from my darling.. he knew that I've wanted this book for quite some time and he actually "secretly" bought the book and gave this to me on our 1st month anniversary... I hope by embarking on this task.. it will lead us (when i work on myself, the postive effects will be on our relationship too) to a wholesome relationship, a more loving relationship and lastly, a better and more fulfiled me.

So I am now putting this into writing that I will start this healing process from tomorrow onwards, 30 Oct will be the 1st day that I will heal myself and let Chuck lead me thru a 366-day of self healing and improvement process. This is just a little milestone of a continuous healing process and I strongly believe that with this, I will be able to be a better person, to myself and to those who love me. I will be able to exude love to everyone around me. Hopefully, will be able to "heal" the world. =)

What I will do is that every night, I will list the healing task that I will do the next day, and practise it the next day and I will also list what I went thru and what I learnt before I disclose the next day's task. =)

So for my task tomorrow, 30 Oct is: "Itimacy can heal anything"
Will elaborate on this tomorrow!!

Peeps, do encourage me to carry on this quite long term task as I go along coz I'm scared I will give up along the way... :)

Nitey everyone.. need to read up and understand what I will need to do.. :)

Defending the caveman

My dearie sisters and their partners



Moi and my darling



Caught the show with my darling and my dearie sisters and their partners.. ;) heehee its a triple date.. nice stand-up comedy that let us see light into the other person's perspective.. hmmm.. but its abit more male-centric i feel..

nevertheless, wanna take this chance to apologize to my dearies that we've got to rush off as my darling has double booked his appts and in the end, we didnt get to catch up much with the gals.. :( Hope to catch u all soon.. in fact during BBQ! =p

It was still a very nice feeling as I can feel the love from both my sisters and their guys, coz during the "show" from the corner of my eye, i can see my dearest PP cosying up to her guy and though 00 is abit far away, but i still feel the happiness emitting from her end.. am truly happy that all the 4 of us have found someone who's suitable for us and this has truly showed on our faces and actions (and my waistline). =) Hope that our friendship, no sistership, will continue and continue like a never-ending river.. =D

Love u all sis. Muacks!

Randomly Random

Hahaha.. just going thru my pictures and found these...




My smoking khaki in his favourite flower shirt...


BDB adopts the healthy lifestyle


And she wishes upon a star....


The ah-xiao moi


A demure bear at home...


How i found her slping in the morning... tsk tsk



Smoking reserved... hmmm

The same ol' Rocher Road Kopitiam

Okie, I know that we are boring... always eating @ the same place... but the food there is good lah.. today my recommendations are:

Herbal Chicken (Double Boiled Soup store) and Basil Chicken (Thai store)



These 2 are quite consistent with their standards... the herbal chicken is not too herbal and for a half chicken, think its about $6, quite standard. for the Basil Chicken, its a very good deal. It comes with Mango salad, tom yam soup, Basil chicken (duhz), sunny side up egg, rice and today, got extra veggie! and all for only $5!!

We ordered an extra plate of vege from the vegetarian store, not too fantastic, coz its abit too oily for my liking, so didnt have much of that.



The oily kang kong

But the meal was very satisfying.. and after the meal, when we were having our drink and ciggies.. I asked him something.. Not propose to him lah... but a PSLE Maths question that a colleague told me about... we were thinking for a while.. and cant figure out the ans.. and the bet is a dinner.. hahahaha.. anyway, here's the question for u to ponder:
Jim bought some chocolates and gave half of it to Ken. Ken bought some sweets and gave half of it to Jim. Jim ate 12 sweets and Ken ate 18 chocolates. The ratio of Jim’s sweets to chocolates became 1:7 and the ratio of Ken's sweets to chocolates became 1:4. How many sweets did Ken buy?

Tell me the ans if you managed to solve this! heehee.... am going to try solve it myself too.. lalala

Okie love peeps.. its year end soon!!! Happy holidays to everyone!!!

To end off, here's a nice love quote

“Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.”
--Samuel Lover


Happy 11th month anniversary! Your place in my heart is freehold. ;)